Yesterday was my parent’s 44th wedding anniversary! 44 years of love, laughs, fights, 6 kids (1 still born), a brain tumour, an affair, more sickness, 2 kids adopted, and then come the grandkids, emigration and happily ever after retirement in the USA. I'll never know how they stayed together through the years but I couldn't be happier that they did. I cant name any of my friends whose parents are still together.
.I'll never judge any couple that decides to get divorced as relationships need a lot of work hard and happy, separated singletons are better than a feuding man and wife. However, it does sometimes feel like marriage for allot of people just doesn’t work anymore. There is so much pressure generally on people for things both materially and emotionally which is a breeding ground for things to go wrong if not managed effectively. Once that Wedding day high subsides its time for the real work! Sex? Boredom? No cash? Kids? One day you wake up and he is not the prince you thought he was but the skint bloke from round the corner. He wakes up and realise that the fit size 8 model he married has become a 15 stone nag?
You can never predict how things are going to change you as a person as life. It’s the risk you take when you commit. I would like to think I would fight for my marriage when it hit the dark spots like my proud Jamaican Mother. After 40 odd years in the UK she’s living a beautiful self sufficient life in the US which she never expected. She always used to say ‘who laughs last laughs best!’ 080807
